Below is the answer I got after asking a numerary about a mutual friend who had recently left the Work after almost 10 years in.
"You know, she got f*cked up."
I believe that single sentence sums up the view of most Opus Dei members towards people who once belonged to their "family".
JCheyenne
PS: Later I found that my (now ex-numerary) friend mentioned above has been doing great and couldn''t be any happier.